Peter Farley

Peter Farley

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About This Website

I hope this website is somewhere where you feel very welcome and want to visit regularly. I trust too that you will find enjoyable and useful. I want it be somewhere which perhaps inspires you, motivates you, amazes you, intrigues you and even provokes you!

I want to encourage people to promote concord and dialogue, to challenge, to not just accept the status quo, to step out of their comfort zones, to think creatively and honestly outside the box of convention, to fight against injustice, to counter prejudice, bigotry and discrimination, to submit everything to objective scrutiny; and to do so in ways which are for the greater good of all who live on this planet.

I want my website to be a bridge between faiths, beliefs, ideologies, lifestyles, social classes, communities, ethnic groups, nations. I want this to be somewhere where people can say what they mean and, provided it isn’t likely to cause offence to others, I want this website to be somewhere people can make their views known. I am happy to publish anything on this website, which is in keeping with the principles outlined here. If you have any contribution you would like to submit for publication, please send it to:

These are daunting objectives, which are certainly way, way beyond anything I could possibly achieve. However, with the power of the world-wide web and most importantly the contributions of hundreds, perhaps thousands of others, such ambitions can be achieved. My ultimate aim is that the website will have to be renamed to reflect its ownership!

I very much hope you will enjoy your visit and will return from time to time to see how the site is developing. Hopefully you will want to take part in its development.

At a glance

FULL NAME

Peter Farely

BIRTHPLACE

West London, England

BORN

1942

RESIDENCE

Sherinham, Norfolk, England

CAREER

Qualified teacher, youth worker, counsellor and hypnotherapist

HOBBIES

Reading, Travel, Photographing Flowers

About me

Hardly a budding young writer, more like nearly denuded autumnal branch - nevertheless, I presume to be an author! At the time of writing, I am seventy two years old - a fact I find hard to believe, until that is my joints groan in confirmation.

I live in Sheringham, North Norfolk and, although I’ve seen more attractive places in my travels, for me, there is no better place to live. I have been blessed with a wonderful wife and helpmate, Margaret, for over forty four years, added to which I have five children, thirteen grandchildren and one great granddaughter.

I am a member of Sheringham Town Council and a governor of Sheringham Woodfields School, This is a purpose-built, complex-needs school on the outskirts of Sheringham, for children and young people from nursery age to sixth form. The pupils and students have a diverse range of special educational needs and work at different levels of intellectual ability.

I was born in West London, where I attended nursery, infants, junior and grammar schools in Chiswick - living close to Kew Gardens, a regular childhood haunt. Chiswick, and in particular Strand-on-the-Green, was a wonderful place to live as a child and teenager and is one of the settings for my first novel – Pandora’s Potential.

I am a qualified, teacher, youth worker, counsellor and hypnotherapist. After spending eight years in the Police (which included three years in CID and in the Drug Squad), I had my first career change – going off to train as a teacher for three years. Most of my subsequent eight years of teaching were in special education (mostly with adolescents with behavioural problems - in both residential and non-residential settings).

After eighteen months as a training officer in a youth employment scheme in Norwich, in 1983, I founded a charity - The Matthew Project. This charity now provides help, throughout Norfolk, to those who have problems related to their own or another's drug or alcohol use. For further information about The Matthew Project, please visit www.matthewproject.org . The Matthew Project features in my second novel – Pandora’s Reprise (watch this space!).

Since stepping down as director of The Matthew Project in 2004, I have been providing training and consultancy to charities, here and abroad. In particular, I have worked in the area of quality standards. I also carry out peer reviews of charities with PQASSO, a self-assessment quality assurance scheme run by NCVO (see http://www.ces-vol.org.uk/PQASSO). With PQASSO, I have carried out quality reviews of over twenty charities (ranging from those with a dozen or so workers, to those with hundreds), in both the UK and Ireland.

At present, I provide support for teachers working in a local school for children with autism and Aspergers. In addition, I have a small number of people for whom I am providing emotional support and/or personal development coaching. If this is something which would be of interest to you, please contact me at trustandshare@btinternet.com . If you think I can help, by meeting in you in person or corresponding through email or other electronic means, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

My personal interests, apart from my family, are reading, crosswords, travel and photographing flowers.

P.S. Feel free to help yourself to anything on this website, it is copyrighted but I give you permission to use it for non-commercial purposes but ask you to acknowledge the source: peterjfarley.org

Peter Farley

Life In Pieces!

Life in pieces! is a collection of poetry, prose, prayer and prophecy, written over the course of my life. The title: Life in pieces!, is really a contradiction, for in God, I believe I have found wholeness — Shalom.

I decided to publish my writing, in the event that others would enjoy reading it. However, I also wanted to encourage anyone, who like me, would not feel qualified to write, to have a go for themselves, at putting pen to paper — for pleasure. I have found the process of writing very cathartic. Just expressing how I feel, fleshing out my thoughts and emotions, has proved very beneficial and fulfilling. So much so, it is a bonus if others enjoy reading what I have produced.

I find it fascinating, to see how my writing has developed over time, as my confidence to share how I feel has grown. Channelling my emotions in this way, has proven to be an effective way to work through my frustrations, my sorrows and my regrets, as it has been to express my enjoyment, my wonder and my fascination in the world around me.

Writing has also provided a useful and fascinating way for me to think through my relationships with family and friends, indeed all I meet in the course of everyday life. Most of all it has been a means through which my relationship with my Creator has developed. It is good to be able to look back over my life, and see how that relationship has grown and blossomed. Above all else, it is a powerful reminder that essentially, mine is a relationship of a child with their Heavenly Father.

Having read it, hopefully you may feel that it could be an encouragement to others, to write for themselves. You may also feel buying a copy, as a gift for a friend, might inspire them to explore and discover the exciting potential of the abundant life Jesus promised.

I offer you Life in pieces!, in the hope that you and others might enjoy a deeper and fuller experience of the life God intends us all to live. Although my book is available, in paperback, through places such as Amazon and other booksellers, I am thrilled to make it available, for £9 post free, on my website: www.peterjfarley.org, price on Amazon £12.50 post free. Click here to order your copy.

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Life In Pieces! Venture

My latest book, Life in pieces!, has just been published and I have been thinking about how I might promote it. Although the more copies I sell, the more profit I make, I genuinely believe that there could be many who might be blessed by reading this book. For this reason, I have decided to offer my family and friends, the opportunity to join me, in making Life in pieces! more widely available. To do this I have decided to try ‘crowd-funding’.

Basically, crowd-funding is a way of funding a project by raising financial contributions from a large number of people. To do this, an individual or group will offer an incentive to others to join in their venture, by making money available to progress their objective. Usually, a sum of money is specified, along with the benefits to the donor, in addition to simply sponsoring the activity.

With the Life in pieces! project, for every £25 contribution, folk will receive a copy of the book, delivered to their home — post free. Individuals would be able to make up to four contributions of £25 each. Everyone who makes a £25 contribution, could then sell the book or give it as a gift, so reducing their outlay to £15. Everyone making a contribution, will be kept fully aware of all promotional efforts.

For their second contribution of £25, folk will receive a post free copy of A Wise Man’s Journey, another book I am writing. I am very excited about it! It is an imaginary account of the journey of the Magi, told by Gaspar, then a young man, into which various biblical narratives are woven. These trace some of Man’s encounters with God and angels. The narrator, now much older, also relates how on a number of occasions, he met Jesus during his years of ministry.

For their third and fourth contribution of £25, folk will receive, post free, a copy of one of the books in The Passion Translation series, such as Psalms - Poetry on Fire or Proverbs – Wisdom from Above.

I hope you will feel that Life in pieces! could make a positive contribution to the well-being of people, causing them to reflect on what really matters in life. I would be thrilled if you wanted to join Margaret and I in this venture.

By clicking on this link Life in pieces Venture, you can support us in ensuring that Life in pieces! is more widely circulated.

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Pandora’s Potential

Nearly twelve years in the writing!

Well, it’s finally happened – my first novel, Pandora’s Potential has been published.

Described as ‘an intriguing tale’, the book explores a number of thorny moral issues, not least topical phenomena, such as virtual morality and sexual abuse.

What is reality? Can you believe what you see? These are the sorts of questions Idris Rees must find answers to, after his life is changed beyond belief, when he is given a mysterious software program by an enigmatic stranger.

Pandors Potential Book

About Pandora’s Potential

Synopsis

Idris Rees was typical of many, in that (even in middle age) he responded impulsively, when faced with situations that required an emotional response. One summer evening, that began to change. Given a software program, by an enigmatic stranger, he soon found his perceptions of reality wanting.

Finding himself in other worlds, initially not knowing whether they were virtual or real, he struggled to react appropriately to the moral quandaries he faced. Overwhelmed by some of the dilemmas he encountered, he found himself compelled to think through more carefully how he dealt with ethical issues - even if, as it appeared, they only existed in his imagination.

Then there was the mysterious programmer, Emrys (the Welsh form of Ambrose, given to Merlin), derived from the Greek name Ambrosios, meaning immortal. Was he the legendary bard and wizard, who was King Arthur's mentor and the guardian of the Holy Grail? Had he indeed discovered the secret of living forever, had he tasted Ambrosia – the food of the gods?

Preface

I want Pandora’s Potential to provoke consideration (and hopefully discussion) of some moral issues, which I believe require contemporary resolution. If the book takes off, I’d like to produce a workbook for individuals and more particularly groups (especially of men), to discuss topics such as: virtual morality and ‘does it matter what you think, as long as you don’t do it’.

I started writing this novel in September 2003 but the vagaries of life meant it wasn’t until late 2014 that I finally finished it. However, the delay in publishing Pandora’s Potential, may well have been fortuitous and the timing of publication opportune. The last ten years has seen an unprecedented, quantum leap in online gaming, and virtual reality is a well-populated, very public domain. This may mean that it is not too far beyond belief to imagine that a technique or a software program could be developed, which could create other worlds, it was possible to visit.

It concerns me greatly though, that too many of today’s youngsters are spending more of their own time in virtuality, than they do in reality. At the time of writing, I am doing some work in a small school for children with autistic spectrum needs, supporting teachers. Some of the children and young people there, are playing Minecraft and sometimes other far from appropriate games, into the early hours of the morning, with parents unaware that their children are ‘not in their bedrooms’. Instead they are wandering through sinister landscapes, where they roam heedless of the need for either a moral compass to find their way around or ethical armour to protect them, as they take on mythical monsters or deal with situations, which have the potential to transmute formative morality.

From the start, virtual morality is a challenge for Idris, the main character in Pandora’s Potential. Initially, he sees ‘What will IT be? (the software program he is given), as just offering a very vivid, realistic immersive experience, much like any other computer game on the market. He certainly doesn’t appreciate that he actually enters ‘other worlds’. As such, he deals with moral issues on the basis that it’s all in his imagination and therefore he can ‘do’ whatever he feels like doing. It’s all just in his mind and doesn’t affect (or harm) anyone else.

The consequence of this is that he goes with the flow of his carnal desires and indulges himself, whenever he is sexually aroused, without allowing his moral restraints to moderate his behaviour, as they would do in real life. Gradually, he comes to realise, that for him, his own ethical values hold true in all situations, real or imagined.

I agonised long on whether to include in the book the sub-theme of sexual abuse, particularly that by an older woman on a young boy. Sadly, a further timely though unintended factor, around publication, is that paedophilia has been very much in the news over the last few years and there is far greater awareness of how widespread it has been, for at least the last four decades.

Whilst female abuse of young males may not be as prevalent as abuse by males, it is nevertheless of concern. There are a number reasons why it is not so readily seen as harmful, especially by men and further reasons why it may be difficult for male survivors to talk about the abuse they have suffered, but I feel it appropriate to draw specific attention to this and to encourage more deliberation on and discussion about, sexual abuse in general.

There is a danger that when paedophilia is mentioned in the media (or indeed in conversation) because (understandably) they are repulsed by the topic, people are inclined to switch off and insufficient consideration is given to the issues involved. It also means that individuals and society are less able to effectively ameliorate the damage caused by the abuse or aid its prevention.

The interface between virtuality and sexual deviance is one which I believe requires us, as individuals and communities, to consider carefully. Are we, by default, exposing children, young people and even vulnerable adults to moral danger, by failing to think through ethical issues, provide guidelines, or appropriately limit access. The boundaries which a caring society sets, must leave room for individuals of any age to explore within and to push against. Each of us has the right to decide for ourselves our ethical standards. Equally though, haven’t we a responsibility to protect those whose capacity to decide for themselves is at a formative stage or intellectually limited, by ensuring they can cope with the settings, real or virtual, they find themselves in.

It has always concerned me that children (and indeed young people) are given experiences before they are old enough to really appreciate them. The upshot of this is, when they reach an appropriate age for optimum enjoyment of that experience, their response is: “we did that in nursery” — and they don’t think it’s worth trying again. When the ‘experience’ is in essence sexual or violent, then the search for greater ‘enjoyment’ can easily stray into the deviant. Is this a very real danger for many youngsters and don’t we owe to them, to ensure that we take the same sort of ‘health and safety care’ of their virtual environments, as we do of their physical adventure playgrounds.

I have used the setting of my own childhood as the scene for that of Idris. The reasons are twofold. Firstly, it is easier for me to draw on my own experience. Secondly (and perhaps more importantly), it allows me to ‘live’ a rerun of my own childhood, changing factors which allow me to imagine how differently my life may have turned out.

I believe I am not alone in fantasying in this way. That said, I am grateful for the life I have enjoyed and whilst I regret the hurt that some of my decisions and actions have caused to others, I acknowledge that adversity has often been ‘an angel in disguise’. In short, I have no regrets, or complaints as to how my life turned out and I know I owe as much to sorrow as I do to joy, as much to the bad experiences as to the good.

Peter J Farley
May 2015

Peter Patter

I will be using Peter Patter to write about topics which interest me. I hope that these articles will provoke reactions and responses.

Portfolio 1
Personal Morality

Exploring the territory of my personal morality
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Portfolio 2
The morning of the day I died

Did I realise this was the day I died?
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Portfolio 3
SOCIALLY UNACCEPTABLE?

I have so much to be thankful for
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